Moving Forward After Divorce
When a relationship, especially a marriage, ends it can be very difficult to overcome. This is earth shattering and grieving the loss can be incredibly painful for anyone. Enduring this next step in your life can be lonely and it is easy to get lost and feel stuck carrying lots of emotions. This experience can shake up your individuality and your sense of identity and maybe even create doubt on how you want to be in the world. Most likely dealing with the stress of divorce will effect where you live, your financial situation, and especially your role as a parent if there are children involved. You might be wondering what’s next for you in your life? When are these painful feelings going to go away, why did this happen to me in the first place and how am I going to get through this? These are all great questions to ask yourself and by seeking therapy perhaps these questions can be answered. Therapy can be an effective way to heal and build yourself in a healthy way so you can grow and be the person you want to be. This is an opportunity to become a better person by learning more of who you are, understanding your feelings through this adversity, creating effective coping skills to improve self care and for you to thrive and feel confident in relationships. Divorce may very well feel that everything is hopeless and you are never going to feel better again but the reality is that it doesn’t have to be that way.
For men and woman moving on in the future, there are several ways to cope through a divorce and some methods are healthy and some are not. Holding in feelings such as loss, anger, sadness, betrayal and disappointment inside and not knowing what to do can be unsettling and self destructive. Divorce is a painful and emotionally draining loss to endure. The thought of being alone and overcoming a difficult transition like this is heartbreaking. If your break up is a divorce then you may have gone through a tedious court process and have spent an exorbitant amount of money on legal fees with an unfavorably exhausting outcome. Essentially, this is why this is the opportune time to invest in yourself by reaching out for support and going to therapy. The change from being married to being divorced can be devastating and seeking therapy can help you discover how to cope with your pain and learn how to heal by moving forward and not dwelling on the past. You can learn how to express your feelings, mourn your loss and become more aware of how you want to be in relationships by taking control of your life again. This is a time to start taking care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally and just because your previous relationship ended doesn’t mean that your next one will too. I am here to help you. Please feel free to contact me through my Contact Form or by phone at 408.608.7230.